Go with the flow.

You're probably wondering how on Earth I'm so relaxed and cool. It's pretty simple, actually. Here we go.

Lose the motherfucking guilt. Stop wracking your brain about stupid shit, like how you wish you were thinner or how you yelled at your kids the other day. When you worry, you're wasting prime energy you could be using on other tasks. Instead, when you start to feel anxiety or concern over something, ask yourself what you can do about it. If the answer is nothing, then send that shit up to the heavens above and let.it.go. If, on the other hand, you actually can change what's causing you guilt, then you have some work to do. 

Sit down and do nothing. Put away the laptop or your fancy phone. Shut off the TV and sit the fuck down. You'll start to feel fidgety and restless. Sit with it and let it wash over you. Take a deep breath and notice how it feels to fill your body with air. Listen to the sounds around you. Close your eyes and just be. Notice how your body feels and whether you're tensing your muscles or letting your body be relaxed. Just be in your skin and let the world do its thing. Breathe. Loosen those muscles. And when you're ready to get up and move ahead with your day, go for it. 

Dance. I don't care if dancing means tapping your foot or nodding your head along to the beat. You could fucking breakdance or jump around the living room waving your arms above your head. It really doesn't matter. But put on some music (any kind that speaks to you) and let your body move. Children have a great way of just moving their bodies without giving a care what someone else thinks. In fact, I'm pretty sure my kids both think they're hot shit when they're dancing because that's the vibe I'm getting from them. Maybe you need to dance when no one is around, that's fine. Just let your body move and feel how good that feels. 

Laugh. Some of my favorite moments are when I think about something and I laugh. As in, LOL people. I absolutely love laughing. Kids laugh all the fucking time and they just find joy in the littlest things. I realize I need change in my life when it's been a while since I've really laughed. And I'm not saying you have to laugh all the time and let life be one big party in your pants. No, what I'm reminding you is how good it feels to laugh and smile. And not necessarily when you're watching a funny movie or show, though that is good, too. No, I want you to laugh and smile with other people. That's when the magic happens.

Feel what you feel. You just have to feel whatever it is that's inside of you. I've been so low before I wasn't sure I'd ever make my way back to a good place. But fighting those feelings is sort of pointless for me. I find that if I just let myself sit with those feelings, I'm then ready to start healing with the help of loving support.  

It's like the Cat Stevens song, "If You Want To Sing Out, Sing Out." 
Well, if you want to sing out, sing out 
And if you want to be free, be free 
'cause there's a million things to be You know that there are